When you have a lot of alternatives is difficult to choose between them, I’m scared to make a bad decision, but being neutral is not the solution.
Usually, when I feel stuck in the middle, I’m used to writing an article, I use this as a way to process what my brain is thinking and vomit everything as words.
I start always with a question and at the end of the article I find an answer, this is the effect of writing on me.
And the question here is what is the best path?
I’ve created a bunch of articles about that because is always the same question, we change, and the situation also changes and we find ourselves asking again the same answers.
There should be a way, a pattern that we should use every time to analyze our problems.
The hopeful part is the part that takes control of us when we have the odds against us, like when we are in the casinos, we know that we are going to lose, but regardless we keep playing, waiting for that single very unlikely event that probably will never arrive.
I want to be a great student, I want to be a good developer, want to create a big community, I want to do videos online, I want to build my project and more.
But is not possible, in the best of cases I’m going to end up doing everything and not obtaining anything as a result.
This is probably my worst problem.
I want to do everything, but I can’t, and I keep commiserating myself.
Furthermore, this gives me a lot of stress and a lot of renounces.
If I could go back now, to that little young myself frustrated and convinced to be able to change to world, I would say to wait.
Why are you rushing so much for it?
The problem is not itself, it’s good to have big ambitions, is good to be motivated and productive, but that should not be our priority, life must have a meaning outside of your goals or obsessions.
Nothing that you are going to achieve is going to leave with you when you die, so don’t lose all yourself for something that you don’t enjoy.
In my opinion, the time that you spend doing something is more valuable than the thing itself that you are building.
For this, if you spend your time helping someone else without wanting anything in return, you are spending your time in the best possible way.
I’m not saying now to leave your job and go on the streets helping others.
Just ask yourself if you are happy with how you are spending your time.
How much time do we spend thinking about our past?
Knowing the remembers of your past is good, not complaining about it.
I could have done better, I could have said something different.
And how much time do we spend thinking about the future?
What will we do tomorrow, how could you do something better?
But by doing that you are losing that moment, is for this that we keep ending the day frustrated, thinking to have spent a terrible day.
I don’t need to complain about my past or think about the future, I don’t have always to choose.
I started this article with the question: “What I’m going to do” and I said that I was going to give myself an answer, and I did.
Nothing.
I’m not supposed to do anything, it’s only myself who is pushing me for a change that probably is not required.
Evolution always cared for itself and is not always the solution to our problems, we need only time to work on ourselves, and time will do the work for us.
Look around you for a single time, shift your attention to something different, change the eyes with which you look at the world and you will find a different meaning