Thank you 2023 to have changed my life.
In the last year, I’ve done things that I’ve never dreamed that I could be able to do.
Was a year of experiences and changes, I learned a lot from everything that happened around me, and I captured everything that I learned in this blog.
I understood better, why I do what I do and what motivates me to do it.
This year gave me proof that doesn’t matter who you are, if you believe in yourself and your abilities, you will always be able to go further than any expectations.
I’ve always tried to give the best of my potential, and I’ve done always what I thought was right to do.
I’ve made so many mistakes and thanks to them I can say that it was a productive year.
I didn’t know my direction, and I was confused about the direction to take.
I think that there is never a stop to choosing your way, and is always the right time to change when you understand to be in the wrong direction.
However is important to establish a direction to follow, and this is something that I didn’t have before.
I pray you have the same experience that I’ve had this year, if you are lucky like I was to have a similar experience, dare and you won’t regret it.
There is nothing more useful than changing your environment when you feel overwhelmed and lost.
I thought the problem was where I was, I felt frustrated and without a purpose.
Only effectively leaving, obtaining what I considered the solution to the problem then I realized what the real problem is.
The problem was not where I was, the problem was not the environment, but the perception that I had of it.
The environment didn’t have any influence on my dissatisfaction, my values were just completely wrong.
I realized it only living with my host family, in another country alone, in another environment, you start missing what is important, and you start to understand that is not the environment and neither money that makes you happy, but the relationships and the value that you put in those.
For this reason, it is so important to spend a period of your life alone, because in this period you realize what gives you meaning as an individual, and only understand that you can decide which direction to choose.
Now I know that there is no right way, every person has got a different view of life, there is no one right or wrong, but there is only one right for you.
listen to every suggestion you receive, especially from the people who love you, but only you can know what is your way.
Take the good from people.
Being closeminded is the killer of intellect and curiosity, be open
Networking is the single most important skill that can change dramatically your life and the way you look at the world.
Having meaning in life is the start of everything, when you don’t have one, you don’t exactly know why are you doing what are you doing, and this makes you underperform and increases your stress level.
As human beings we need a reason for doing important things, without it we are not proactive in doing anything, and we have to force ourselves to pass in action.
Nothing is more important than a dream and a purpose.
Choosing your purpose carefully, can not be superficial.
It must hit you deep, it must be something that makes you get up early in the morning, it must be something to lets you work more than anyone else.
I’m not a fanatic of overwork, also it’s the worst thing you can do for yourself, but sometimes, on hard times having a purpose is what saves you.
Having a clear purpose shows you the right way beyond giving you a clear vision of your life and how you see yourself.
You can have different visions in your life, you can always change them, only growing up do you realize which ones are the best for you.
I’m an obsessed person, in every period of my life, I’ve always had something that fulfilled my mind.
When I was in the UK, fitness was the thing that filled my days.
I wanted to show myself that I was able to overcome that period and give all of myself to take the best from this experience, and that’s what I did.
Luckily I met a lot of people with the same vision, and we became easily good friends.
In those moments I didn’t realize that probably that period was the best period of my life, and I thought about what made it so unique.
Surely was the environment, the fact that everything was new to me, new family, new language, new friends, but thinking about it now, there was another more important reason.
What made that period so unique was having a purpose and people to share it.
There is nothing more meaningful than spending time with people like-minded with the same goals.
Having a team, working toward the same vision and helping each other is beautiful, doing it for a noble cause is also better.
So what I’ve learned from this year is that having meaning is the lighthouse in the darkness, then you just have to find the right people to share it with.
One mistake that I made since the beginning was not understanding the period that I was in, I think, and I see the importance only now, that before facing an important period we should underline which are the objective of this period.
The mistake that I made was trying to keep up with everything that I had in my life before starting my exchange period.
But the reality is that multitasking doesn’t exist, and if you want to do something really good, you should face thing after thing and not all together.
So in the end I ended up frustrated with a medium result on everything that I did, don’t say terrible result.
What I will take from this experience is: make to yourself clear which type of period of your life is going to be.
I think that every period of life can be categorized into two types: adventure and exploration or focus.
You just have to understand before what type of period is going to be, in this way, you won’t find yourself making the same error.
All those two areas are extremely important, you can not think to be able to focus on something if you don’t know where you want to focus.
Exploration is a matter of exposing yourself to challenges, it makes you wonder what you like and what you don’t.
It’s not reasonable thinking to be able to focus hard during a period of adventure, and it’s also counterproductive, the best thing in the majority of time is doing one thing at a time and being patient.
This year is going to be a year of goals and focus, I will give all myself on all those things that matter to me.
Most important of all, during the last year, I understood what I like to do.
What I want to do is create value, creating things that will help other people.
This year is gonna be a year of focus and goals, I want to do a few things but do them by myself.
This year:
A year of focus is a year of habits.
Remember less is more.
Focus on the important things only, do not distribute your attention.
Focus is not a switch, do long and durable sessions of deep and concentrate focus on something that matters.
Intentionality
Focus on those things, remember your priorities and stay on them.
Scheduling is the base for organization, Organizing your day and your weeks is a way to remove stress from your life, and it gives you the freedom to remove the stress of thinking about what you are going to do and when.
Exercise and nutrition
Exercise is the best way to keep you mentally and physically healthy.
Never underestimate the importance of good nutrition and exercise on your health.
Rest
Recovery is the base for performance, you can not think to perform if you are not in the right shape.
Take care of your sleep and take time to rest when needed.
Everything is simple to write but difficult to put into practice, take time to develop good and stable habits.
Constancy is a matter of habits not of motivation.
Be present.
Be present in what you are doing, and be present with the people you are spending time with, life is worth living for the relations you have.
Family first.
Objectives are only a distraction compared to your loved ones.
Do never underestimate the time you spend with them, or you will regret it.
Do what you love and don’t underestimate the importance of your time.
Think with your mind and be purely curious, curiousness is the fuel for your brain.