Stories are important, you can learn a lot from them and you can also give a message.
I’m interested in stories of people because I want to know what actions led them to those results.
When other people tell me their stories, I have the impression that I am a good listener, because they seem willing to talk.
We don’t show what we are, and this is a pity since we could save much misunderstanding and we would avoid starting toxic relationships.
This is not simple, In my experience, I’ve made a lot of mistakes in terms of my friendships.
In those months when I was alone in the UK, I figured out the importance of having a clear and stable group like I have.
I discovered that is not common, people think to be friends with anyone but in the end, they always find themselves alone, you are friends with a lot of people, but in the end, you are alone.
I’ve never been very sociable, which is for the reason that I don’t have many friends, but the majority of friends that I have are based on a long time spent together.
No matter where I go or for how long I am away, I will always be friends with them.
We don’t chat much, we don’t have even to organize with whom we hang out, we just know.
I believe that your friendships should not be based on a request for attention or communication.
Also, these things are important.
But in a real relationship, they are granted, I don’t need to write to you all day, I don’t need to take your attention, I don’t owe you nothing, and you don’t owe me anything.
These are all things that you learn living, there is no manual of instructions on how to create good friendships, maybe I was lucky; however, when I tried to do it again in the UK, I had the same result.
Everything goes around who you are and what you like.
You attract people like you, look around you and question yourself about if you would like to be like your friends, or what you think about them, do you trust them? Can you be the real version of yourself?
I don’t think you should delete every toxic friendship of your life, I don’t like these drastic ways of approaching things.
Everyone has different abilities, for example, I have a friend who is an incredible musician, I enjoy playing with him, and talking with him about music, but then he is a really bad example in everything else, or he does things that I don’t like, for example going to parties, drinking.
Who said that you always have to take the complete pack?
I don’t mean to use people, don’t get me wrong, just be aware of what are the problems of frequenting that person and act accordingly, then is up to you if end or no the relationship.
This doesn’t apply to friendship and romantic relationships, you can not just take a part of the package, you must take it all, so you should chose accordingly your close friend.
True relationships are made by giving yourself as you are and accepting others as they are.
Only in this condition real relationships work.
This is what I think about this topic, I heard a lot of stories unfortunately of hard relationships or toxic ones, and I know that sometimes it is also difficult figure out if you are in one of them.
We tend to point the finger at others. We don’t want to analyse ourselves because we know that we could find something difficult to accept.
But happiness is a process of realizations and problems, if you want great relationships you must be able to accept that you are in the wrong one.