Everyone has got different views of the world, sometimes we forget it, we think that everyone thinks like us.
We are unique, in our beliefs and our biases, everyone sees each other differently.
Every person is a shade of all the views of other people, sometimes making us lose our identity, putting some masks to impersonate who we are not.
All this is to defend something, whatever it is, our ego, our beliefs or ourselves from our fears.
Why we believe what we say is important.
In our world, one single individual can make a big difference, thanks to technology and the fast propagation of information, today also one little individual with an undeniable truth will always beat thousands of people with only speculation.
If we stop to say what we think and stop to defend our beliefs, the world will go to ruin.
Through hard times, only tough people are brave enough to tell the truth.
But until what point saying the truth is the best thing to do?
There is a difference between seeking the truth for the good of everything or just for yourself.
When we argue, we try to defend our position at all costs, as if were a battle to make the other think that we have the truth on our side.
But nothing is going to end up well, since the beginning, every side has already decided who is going to win.
To have a debate, every side must leave their certainties and look at the facts, put away their ego and look for the truth.
Every time I meet someone with an interesting idea different from mine, I’m interested in it, and I can see instantaneously how the situation is going to end when I say, “I don’t agree”.
After you have said those words there are two possible ways in which the other interlocutor will act.
First is the start get irritated, In my personal experience, the more a person gets frustrated and irritated from you trying to contradict peacefully their thesis the more is an indicator of hypocrisy and lack of knowledge in their field.
An expert would know how vast and complex a field is.
I don’t believe in perfection or absolute patterns, I think that the more a person is sure to win, the more likely that something is going to go wrong.
What to do in these situations.
I hate to admit it, but I am terrible at this, I make a mistake every time that I’m in those situations and only then do I think how dumb I’ve been to have replied like I did.
This is what I learned from all my unpeacefully arguments.
Understand the context.
Since the beginning of the discussion you should have already figured out what type of conversation are you having, is your interlocutor finding the truth or is just defending their ego?
Don’t respond in kind.
Probably the worst thing that you can do in the second case is to make your interlocutor understand that you are ready to defend your position.
Do not respect your ego
Do not think that only when the other person has the same vision of you everything will be solved, in the second case, it will never be.
Sometimes just understand that not everything must have to stay in their place.
Trying to convince someone else that he’s wrong is not what you need.
Having the truth has a cost, give it only to people who are ready to listen.
Everything starts from a belief, that you are right, that your thesis is the more favourable to win.
But remember that it is not always like this, everything that I wrote can and must be applied to you and me.
Having a small feeling that also you can be wrong will make you more cautious about the words that you are using and more willing to listen to what other people have to say.
The truth must be placed as the first thing, over your ego or beliefs, religion or whatever, search for it and be willing to change your mind if proof comes to you.
“More the knowledge lesser the ego, lesser the knowledge more the ego.”
Albert Einstein